Most of what they say would be true for that part of the population that dates regularly.I was wondering about the other half of the world where girls just like to be date-less.It's through no fault of their own that they don't get a date.It probably is because of those feelings they harbor about that one perfect Guy who would just sweep them off their feet.I have been living that dream all these years and it took some rough bumps,endless tears,self-pity and disgust to broaden my perspective on the word "Dating".
When i say dating its hard to define a word as simple as that.To most Indian girls such as myself the word dating would immediately in course of the date itself transform itself into a relationship.It doesn't have to be the first date but we are very high on jumping to conclusions and expecting way too much more than what a guy can actually offer us.The whole concept of dating is not very liberal in India.It has nothing to do with religion,race,cast or sex.The whole idea of meeting someone new without parental consent is exhilarating.That's probably the reason why getting hitched on the run is so appealing to some who have families who could never in a million light years be cool about their kids dating regardless of what their age is.
Dating to some parents is meeting the parents of the other partner concerned and a "UNION" of families.Indians have this whole big thing going on about how when a marriage takes place,its the joining and communion of two families.AMEN !!
I mean where is the couple in all of this?Swallowed up in all the hearty greetings,pretend smiles and endless gifts from both sides.
The movie on the other hand doesn't talk about bi-sexuals,lesbians,trans-sexuals.It's about how any guy doesn't really know how to be just point blank and tell a girl "that he is just not into her".So they make endless conversation,use the girl like a condom and move onto the next as soon as they can.The point being is that most guys are afraid of commitment.To them it's definitely a hard pill to swallow when they feel they get the raw end of the bargain by promising undying love,devotion and fidelity.
There are two relationships in the movie that stick to my head.For anyone who has seen it they know what i'm talking about.The Jennifer Aniston-Ben Affleck who have been together for almost seven years.He doesn't think it's necessary to get wed.His feelings on the matter make her feel confused and finally makes her question him on his motive for staying together.They live apart and realise that they didn't need to get married for them to live like a normally wed couple.However,they come together at the end of course because he can't live apart from her.And its a movie with a happy end.
The other relationship is warped.Two college sweethearts get married and are a picture of a happily married couple.Until he cheats on her with a random girl he meets in a grocery store.Its hard to find a happily married after without throwing in a couple of hot girls who are just irresistible.
The movie is not all that true but improvises on the everyday Romance we see on the big screen.It's given me a lot to think about and realise that women have an amazing capacity to love and be loved.But,not all women are the same and can definitely walk out of any relationship without scars,burns or abuse.
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