Stark reality

     You think you know a person

     A pocketful of surprises awaits you

     We can sympathize in sadness or pain

     But if it is climbing that ladder of success

     Your very friends turn against you to compete with you

     What you sow,so shall you reap

      Rewards belong to those who strive to be the best

      To be happy for another regardless of one's own

      pitfalls is not something anyone can do

      There are but a few ,those special ones

      Who know when to turn their evil,mocking sides away

      To embrace the goodness that is inherent in all

      Friends might seem like those true mirrors to your very soul

      The same might turn into the very worst kind of Foe

      All we do is Be on guard and forge ties based on disloyalty

      For we are but mere Humans left to our own resouces and minds

      To be led and guided , pushed to do the right by our consciences

      To wish for a world free of guilt and emotional abuse

      Is impossible and unreal

      But to pray for friends who can share in your joy and pain

      Is something that we all want and hope for.

      The Wheel turns right back on its axis

      What goes around will surely come around.

    

Adulthood is weird......i don't feel it

Hello to all that is dear to me.

That includes me and me and only Me. How often do we criticize and are hypocritical of ourselves. Probably none too often. But if we cut to the chase all we want to do is protect ourselves.While I was networking on Facebook the other day, I came across this status of a friend that comes to mind "These are the marks that words have left on me".It seems very poignant and thoughtful .
I usually like to protect myself from a persons brutal,sarcastic or flippant remark by ignorance or playing deaf.It gets me nowhere as the other person always finds that the target of bigger and better amusement.All i need to do is find a better outlook of dealing with another persons' negativity toward me.Retaliating in kind is not an option as you make yourselves come down to their level of innate childishness.
My new motto is to stay as impersonal as you can get to another's words.They could never have the Power to reduce you to a sobbing nincompoop unless you allow them to.My source of inspiration comes when there are huge family gatherings.You get to meet people who you are desperately trying to avoid and then there is a death,or a birth ,anniversary or weddings that demand your presence.I am always amazed at the meet and greet section when someone comes up to you and immediately addresses you on how many pounds you have lost or added to yourself. And  Hello,to them too. That's exactly what we were looking for. A walking weighing scale who reports our every progress. Right on Spot.
I believe everyone has their own load to carry.Not all of us can be diplomatic when showing our disdain and being condescending to another who hasn't earned it is just plain mean and uncalled for. Who are we to be judgmental and articulate opinions based on another persons' weight. If not but a kind word , I feel if there is something on our mind and it needs an outlet. At the very least give it some thought before it slips out of your mouth carelessly.

Mental Blocks

Its been one of those many tiring unproductive come wasteful days where you wake up feeling like the Prince of Persia but slowly as the day progresses your smile gets fixed. Your back seems to welcome constant aches in it and all you want to do is fling a ball the size of a globe at all those cheerful people who you come across everyday. It is never their fault that everything seems to work out perfectly well for them. But just because my day isn't going well,who gives me the right to feel the need to wipe the smile of any cheerful Harry.

Talking about Harry. The new Harry Potter movie is up for release. A four hour magical world is everything that i want to sink myself into at the moment. On a completely unrelated note,i recently watched this amazing movie "The Social Network". Social media being the new Zing in town.Anyone who hasn't caught up with it needs to have a major reality check. It's going to be as monumentally important as figuring out whether Bill gates is still on the Forbes Richest List.

Right.So getting back to where we began i always picture my Mind to be this fortress. It protects itself from anything that it doesn't want to comprehend.It isn't necessarily that you don't understand what another person is saying . It's just that you voluntarily close that side of your mind of from being able to understand certain things. This happens when we hear bad news.We already have mentally started shutting down. So no matter what the other person says,or reacts. You have already made a choice to be unfocused.

I go though life looking through rose-colored glass. Why? Its because fantasy is so much better than reality. In your minds eye you have already spent a forever after with your knight in shining armor. In reality that Knight doesn't even exist and even if he does,has no clue as to the high standards set in your mind. So no matter what happens he will always fall short.Again,Not their fault. Technically,the fairer sex are more open and in tune with their emotions than their counterparts. If we all lived in a reality where we knew what the other person thought it would be fair to say it would be a catastrophe. The key to harmony is Communication. If we don't talk ,how will the other person ever know what it is that we really want?

Hello Bright New Day

It's one of those Saturday Mornings when you feel you can conquer the world with a 15-minute Yoga session and a cup of coffee.Don't you just love that feeling when you wake up bright and shiny like a new penny ready to start the day with such gusto.
Its not one of those lazy day weekends when I just get comfy at home.I'm not doing a movie marathon or staying up late watching old re-runs on TV and toothpaste commercials.I'm going out.Its not very often we get the chance to say that unless we are letting our hair down and getting ourselves so sloshed in a bar that we neither know the time of day/night and end up kissing just a random stranger.Those are some good times until you wake up the next day suffering from a mind-blowing migraine and a whole gamut of memories of the night before.
It's great to re-cap an evening spent with friends.But it's not nice when you know you did something you regret.Blah!
Here's a morning of possibility.I just realise it's my cousins birthday and i have not bought her anything.On the other hand,I need to get ready to go to a Farm which is miles away.I'm still contemplating while the clock is ticking.I know that if i move like a bolt of lightning I will be able to make it to my pick up to the Farm AFTER i have bought the gift i need for my cousins birthday tomorrow.
The best part about talking to oneself is that you end up making great decisions.Maybe.
I still haven't really moved an inch although i know what i have to do.
But Today is a day of possibility and I love the feeling i'm carrying with me right now.I just hope it lasts till the end of the day when i'm bone weary and cranky and hate Life in general.
So long and Have a Nice day -Me ! :)

He's just NOT that into you

So it's taken some time coming back to the grind.But I am back and i have a new topic on my mind.I watched the movie for the second time the other day and it leads to a new insight about the "Male" domain.

Most of what they say would be true for that part of the population that dates regularly.I was wondering about the other half of the world where girls just like to be date-less.It's through no fault of their own that they don't get a date.It probably is because of those feelings they harbor about that one perfect Guy who would just sweep them off their feet.I have been living that dream all these years and it took some rough bumps,endless tears,self-pity and disgust to broaden my perspective on the word "Dating".

When i say dating its hard to define a word as simple as that.To most Indian girls such as myself the word dating would immediately in course of the date itself transform itself into a relationship.It doesn't have to be the first date but we are very high on jumping to conclusions and expecting way too much more than what a guy can actually offer us.The whole concept of dating is not very liberal in India.It has nothing to do with religion,race,cast or sex.The whole idea of meeting someone new without parental consent is exhilarating.That's probably the reason why getting hitched on the run is so appealing to some who have families who could never in a million light years be cool about their kids dating regardless of what their age is.
Dating to some parents is meeting the parents of the other partner concerned and a "UNION" of families.Indians have this whole big thing going on about how when a marriage takes place,its the joining and communion of two families.AMEN !!
I mean where is the couple in all of this?Swallowed up in all the hearty greetings,pretend smiles and endless gifts from both sides.

The movie on the other hand doesn't talk about bi-sexuals,lesbians,trans-sexuals.It's about how any guy doesn't really know how to be just point blank and tell a girl "that he is just not into her".So they make endless conversation,use the girl like a condom and move onto the next as soon as they can.The point being is that most guys are afraid of commitment.To them it's definitely a hard pill to swallow when they feel they get the raw end of the bargain by promising undying love,devotion and fidelity.


There are two relationships in the movie that stick to my head.For anyone who has seen it they know what i'm talking about.The Jennifer Aniston-Ben Affleck who have been together for almost seven years.He doesn't think it's necessary to get wed.His feelings on the matter make her feel confused and finally makes her question him on his motive for staying together.They live apart and realise that they didn't need to get married for them to live like a normally wed couple.However,they come together at the end of course because he can't live apart from her.And its a movie with a happy end.

The other relationship is warped.Two college sweethearts get married and are a picture of a happily married couple.Until he cheats on her with a random girl he meets in a grocery store.Its hard to find a happily married after without throwing in a couple of hot girls who are just irresistible.

The movie is not all that true but improvises on the everyday Romance we see on the big screen.It's given me a lot to think about and realise that women have an amazing capacity to love and be loved.But,not all women are the same and can definitely walk out of any relationship without scars,burns or abuse.

Live Life abundantly

Its funny how we take everything for granted.We wake up each morning and dont pause a moment to take in a deep breath.Tomorrow might be the last time we look at someone we love.It might be just because they end up leaving on a short vacation or a long one.The point is that they are gone or will be gone soon.
A whole days worth is lost when you forget to appreciate what you already have.Today i bless the moment i opened my eyes.This moment will pass too but the memory of it will remain.There are countless times where i want to turn back the clock and change myself.The time when angry words spilled freely from my lips and an attitude make-over was in order.Those days neither did i pay heed nor did i know how not to be less self-involved and more self-aware of others' needs.
If we were given another chance to make things alright would we take it?Thats a moot point as we know the odds in favor of it out beat the ones against it.
Looking back now i want to be a whole lot of different things.I do realise now that i just need to make improvements to the existing me.Its funny like i say how we take every moment for granted when we can be so generously living life abundantly.

The Nib of a Pen

It is just this that keeps a smooth flow of ink on any piece of paper.
On a totally unrelated note,i hate it when on a perfectly calm day,my father decides to ask me if I'm absolutely ready for an examination which is scheduled three days from now.Its about time to sit up and smell the roses,Dad.I'm done studying for the past 24 years so its great if you could treat me like an individual now and then.Every nib of every pen lets say is pointed and promises a smooth flow of letters.I wish Life could be that simple.Just as non-traumatic as waving a magic wand around and everything falls into place.
We have all received countless chain emails that teach us that Life can be a Watermelon,a Jar filled with pebbles,stones,water,sand,etc and lots of other little anecdotes that make sense when your punch drunk on injecting yourself with a philosophy needle.Its weird how when you think of it you dont sign up to be Atlas carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders.But there you are feeling like every step you take is a herculean effort.My mind is a piece of driftwood.If i dont catch my wayward thoughts,I usually end up trying to figure out why I start things in the first place.
Its hard not to be selfish.Since that is a knee jerking,automatic reflex in us all.Just as we think we can be selfless and generous,there comes along that last donut in the box,that one can of beer in the fridge and that one slab of cheese that has your name written all over it.
Does that mean we are selfish,if we choose to do what we really want?Maybe so and some would downright nod their heads in self-righteous acknowledgement.I dream of a world where thoughts run parallel with actions and words spoken in anger can be taken back.
My random thoughts have come to a still.So for now,so long.

which side of the bed did u wake up from?

Sometimes when the day starts I just feel the need to go right back to sleep.Luckily, i gave up a perfect no-nonsense job that kick started my career two years ago.The reason being that i wanted to be a management student.Two years later it has come to my attention that I do have a talent -Its called Multi-tasking.I could have studied and worked and fulfilled a life-long role of being the eldest and being a strong support in the family.But I won't be that morose and dwell in the past.

I have aged before my time.Some of us feel that way when we look back and realize that the things that made us laugh uncontrollably just a few months ago dont have the same effect on us anymore.

Apart from the sitcom "Friends" which for some reason that i fail to understand still makes me crack up every time i watch it.For all of us who place ourselves in a friends "shoes" one time or another.I have always felt myself in tune with Phoebe Buffey.Her crazy logic just feeds into my already muddled brains and makes crystal clear sense.Its amazing how her song "Smelly Cat" always puts me in a different state of mind.

As this is my first post the first random thought for a title turns out to be "Phoenix Tears".I would rather just give just explain why i thought of it than a Google search and collecting authentic information on how a Phoenix inspires me.

I am a huge fan of the Harry Potter series and what i like best about it is that Phoenix tears can heal.If you think of it,when we cry ,we actually heal ourselves.

I have heard many people say that Men dont necessarily have to cry to show their emotions.But i feel if they do it only makes them more Human.The reason I say this is because Women tend to freely express their feelings.A quick sob will melt even a stone cold heart.But men on the other hand,tend to hide those emotions behind a wall of suppressed rage and grief.In the end it just consumes them .

I think we can decide what we want to become in Life or let Life choose what we become.

Our reaction to any given situation depends on how we emerge and dust away those cobwebs that turned to chains.In any frame or state of mind it only depends on us how we want to react to it.

This morning i woke up with No goal and a lot of cobwebs in my head.This evening i felt the need to vent out my frustration on pen...I did realize a quick blog will ease my distress. But everyday brings with it Joy and more than our share of Pain.However from it we learn to emerge as a Phoenix does.New and Alive to face another day.