There is always that time when you lose control of all your emotions because you let anger take over you. I have befriended anger and bitterness for a long time now. They have kept me insane and on the par with people who don't know how to be anything but angry at life in general. I was considered the epitome of calmness and serenity in the family. More often than not I felt like the victim of any bad situation that befell me. This is a normal reaction. We always feel that bad things happen to just us. Everyone else's life seems perfect in comparison to ours. I did too no matter how many times i convinced myself otherwise.
Silence was my fortress. It protected me from everyone and anything around me. It's your only weapon when it comes to not reacting to any angry outburst. You can't really argue with someone who refuses to react to verbal abuse or physical violence. There are some of course who love to try and even succeed at proving how insufferably conservative they are in their approach to other people's emotions.It's taken me a long time to say and more importantly believe this but you gain an upper hand in any fight when you stay calm and think before you react to the person in front of you.
It's not always the right thing to do to embrace silence. I have had to stand up for myself on more than one occasion and it hasn't been all that bad. The key is to strike a balance in your head whether to speak up or just let it go. I always have two options in front of me. Do I follow the same down-trodden path that makes you want to shoot at someone or be the bigger person and walk out of it feeling like you climbed a mountain.
Sometimes I wonder whether dominance by someone else and submission by me is what I take for granted. I want to fight back but not the same way they do. I refuse to be the same person who looks in mirror and counts more frown lines.
This is where I want to be. I want to be quiet, happy and calm away from everyone and anything that makes me blink twice to hide a tear.
Silence was my fortress. It protected me from everyone and anything around me. It's your only weapon when it comes to not reacting to any angry outburst. You can't really argue with someone who refuses to react to verbal abuse or physical violence. There are some of course who love to try and even succeed at proving how insufferably conservative they are in their approach to other people's emotions.It's taken me a long time to say and more importantly believe this but you gain an upper hand in any fight when you stay calm and think before you react to the person in front of you.
It's not always the right thing to do to embrace silence. I have had to stand up for myself on more than one occasion and it hasn't been all that bad. The key is to strike a balance in your head whether to speak up or just let it go. I always have two options in front of me. Do I follow the same down-trodden path that makes you want to shoot at someone or be the bigger person and walk out of it feeling like you climbed a mountain.
Sometimes I wonder whether dominance by someone else and submission by me is what I take for granted. I want to fight back but not the same way they do. I refuse to be the same person who looks in mirror and counts more frown lines.
This is where I want to be. I want to be quiet, happy and calm away from everyone and anything that makes me blink twice to hide a tear.
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